The basics are ....
1. Relax it isn't rocket science. It's rubbing steel with a wet rock.
2. Grip the knife only firmly enough to hold it. You are not choking chickens or trying to hold a snake still.
3. Grip the stone arm with a loose two finger and thumb. Let the stone do the work not pressure from your arm. Exert only enough pressure to keep the stone in contact with steel. It's like a stroke with a pool cue, keep it smooth and light.
4. Buy a permanent marker, sharpie or something like it. At the same time buy a good magnifying glass and start looking for a good inexpensive 10X loupe (I suggest BelOMO). Use the marker to find where your stone is hitting and adjust according. EVERYTIME you change stones.
5. Keep your stones fresh and keep it flat. Freshen your stones regularly, like before each sharpening session. It's flattening but you just don't do as much work. 30 seconds on Sic on glass or three passes with the Diasharp. I'll even freshen in the middle of doing a batch of knives if I have to.It unclogs the pores, keeps them cutting, and ensures they don't dish. Once a stone dishes it accelerates the wear pattern tremendously.
6. If you don't enjoy sharpening you are better off paying someone else to sharpen your knives. Do those things in life that you do enjoy. You may not live longer but you will enjoy life more.
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