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The result of my wife's uncle's "Rib cook".

Sorry about that. I would've much rather heard that the food was great, he was a perfect gentleman and everyone had a wonderful time.
 
We all knew what the outcome would be. Memorial day at your house this year. Show 'em how its done!
 
Takin the high road is a class act! Nice job.I'm sure you will help him when
ya can.:thumb:
 
jestridge said:
Way to go, what good would it have done to embrass him.
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It would eliminate a backyard full of unhappy guests the next time around. I don't get why we are so nice to people that suck at what they do, but are too afraid to pull the trigger and hurt their feelings. To much salt, say something. It's never going to get better if you don't complain. Call it enabling. Honesty is my policy. People complain I'm brash. Fine. The good news is that you won't have to spend 20 minutes asking the same question looking for a different answer. I would have gone at lengths to ask if he ran out of salt at some point.

In the past I've been fortunate to get worried I'd run out of food. I'm in a battle royal with my UDS so far. The stuff has been ok, but I wouldn't be expecting praise. I very well may somehow fail with this thing, and I'm ok with that. I know I'm good at something else (Weber Kettle). Those that are good at nothing need to be reminded, lest all of the rest suffer.
 
I would not have told him it was good, I would have said it's not to my taste but to each his own. If I didn't like him, I would have added, oh it looks like no one is eating anything but the store bought stuff.

LOL, OK I probably would not have added the last part but...

Jeff
 
Thanks Brethren. :thumb: I think the Lord was looking after me in that her uncle chose country style ribs over spares or baby backs. I normally do not cook country style ribs unless it is requested so this was a truly apples and oranges type comparison. But I think once he realized how much food was left that he didn't feel the need to ask me any questions about anything of his being better than mine. Because it wasn't "kind of" obvious it was REAL REAL obvious at the amount of food left over.

We got back in the vehicle, my wife thanked me for "being good" then REALLY THANKED ME when we got home!!!! ROLL TIDE!!!! :clap2: :becky: :bow:
 
Yep, I think it's time you had them over to your place and let him watch. And take notes. :)

Nicely done, BB.
 
propsync said:
It would eliminate a backyard full of unhappy guests the next time around. I don't get why we are so nice to people that suck at what they do, but are too afraid to pull the trigger and hurt their feelings. To much salt, say something. It's never going to get better if you don't complain. Call it enabling. Honesty is my policy. People complain I'm brash. Fine. The good news is that you won't have to spend 20 minutes asking the same question looking for a different answer. I would have gone at lengths to ask if he ran out of salt at some point.
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I'm not sure it would. I used to be this same way and realized that in many cases the situation in which I was being brutally honest wasn't worth the situation it created afterwards. I think it depends on the situation. Somethings simply aren't worth it. Because many times the person you're being honest with doesn't take the "constructive criticism" as you've intended it and it creates a worse situation.

For example my brother in law's girlfriend is scatterbrained. She gets lost in conversations where you have to constantly go back and "catch her up" and re-explain what you've already explained because she can't keep up with a conversation. I don't know if its ADD, ADHD, or whatever but it will drive you up the wall. It is very noticeable. It doesn't take someone very long to figure out that she can't focus on what you're saying very long. Many people in the family had noticed this and it bothered them because it comes across rude. Well, my "honest self" decided I'd bring this to her attention in a descrete, "constructive" manner not to embarrass her but to bring it to her attention in order to help not only the rest of us but her. Well, my "good intentions" backfired on me and I was the one that turned out to be the jackazz for saying something. Now when she comes to cookouts or family things she is uncomfortable and basically just sits and doesn't say much because she thinks she's the scum of the earth. And yes, I get "credit" for it all. In the end it wasn't worth it. :doh:
 
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Glad to hear it was not as bad as you were thinking it might be, perhaps he will pump his brakes and change his attitude in the future.
 
I'm sure it's not the last time you'll be invited over to his place. For your own good it might help to educate the guy. On the other hand, if he does get good at grilling or smoking, he'll go right back to "one uping" you. Catch 22 I guess.
 
No one has said it yet! So I will....Karma is a B%#@*! You didnt have to say anything...It will work out on its own for him teasing you in the past.

I believe in Karma...Its happened to me to many times. Maybe I should learn to BBQ Crow!
 
Reminds me of my mother in law's cooking.

My in laws have a dog with a limp, and I always say: "yeah, cause her husband comes home takes one look at dinner and then kicks the dog". waka waka waka.
 
Chubby Tuna said:
I'm sure it's not the last time you'll be invited over to his place. For your own good it might help to educate the guy. On the other hand, if he does get good at grilling or smoking, he'll go right back to "one uping" you. Catch 22 I guess.
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That's when the fun begins.. family throwdown!! :-D

I'd invite him and a few guests over in the near future and make some Q to end all Q and if he's modest enough he'll ask questions and you can give him a few pointers.

My wife's uncle likes to BBQ quite a bit but he goes by instinct mostly (no real temp control, internal temp checks, etc...) and it's hit or miss for the most part. He knows I can hold my own but doesn't ask too many questions. I guess it's a guy thing.. dunno. I would never say anything, he's very generous and does more than his share of entertaining the family. It's a "lead a horse to water, but can't make him drink" sort of thing and I've learned to accept it. But I do encourage him to pull the trigger on a BGE or Keg every now and then thinking it may help him out a little (at least it would come with a thermometer!!)... :wink:
 
There ya go! I like it! :clap2:

Capozzoli said:
Reminds me of my mother in law's cooking.

My in laws have a dog with a limp, and I always say: "yeah, cause her husband comes home takes one look at dinner and then kicks the dog". waka waka waka.
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