When you gotta cut them loose.

txschutte · 11-22-2012, 09:23 PM

I have been the head cook and chief financier of my cooking team for the last 18 months. I have paid all entry fees, rounded up the meat sponsor, worked recipes, etc.

But now, I wanna let my family (wife and kids) in on my pasttime and use it for bonding.

Honestly, I feel like my other team members are riding my coattails and are contributing zilch, besides taking pics at awards.

Would I be a douche if I simply said "sayonara", and take all my toys, including the logo and team name, and ventured with my wife and kids?

MilitantSquatter · 11-22-2012, 09:31 PM

not at all.... especially if it was on your dime.

family first...

Gadragonfly · 11-22-2012, 09:40 PM

Are they Brethren? You may have just told them

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"Bone to Bark" BBQ · 11-22-2012, 09:53 PM

Cut 'em loose!

JazzyBadger · 11-22-2012, 09:56 PM

Really, what's the worst that could happen? Insofar as I see it, worst case scenario would be that those cut loose might stop being your friend. If that is in fact the worst case scenario, and you can deal with that, then by all means go for it.

Your money, your time, your desire to spend said time and money with family, means they can choke. At least in my world of questionable morals.

Lake Dogs · 11-22-2012, 10:49 PM

I agree with all that has been said above, however framed in: "it depends on what has
been the agreement between you and these other guys up until this point" and some of "how it came to be"

But, if it's your team, you named it, you paid for team gear, you've paid for the meats, supplies, entry fees, smoking gear, etc. then yeah, cut 'em loose and do what you must.

Rookie'48 · 11-22-2012, 11:07 PM

Boy-B-Q rides again

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jbrink01 · 11-23-2012, 08:00 AM

Nope. It's your ball, you can take it and go home whenever you want.

timzcardz · 11-23-2012, 08:54 AM

Included in the price of financing everything is the right to have the final say on everything.

But if there any batteries involved, then leave them, because batteries are never included.

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NRA4Life · 11-23-2012, 08:55 AM

Do it. My wife and I were the team until our daughter was born, now I just cook by myself. If your teammates aren't contributing, you don't need them. Family time and bonding is important.

4 smokin butts · 11-23-2012, 09:01 AM

dont cut them loose,keep them on back burner for when family cant help or go ,we did 35 this year,the wife and i,sometime kids,get extra help from team when she cant go ,or have a judge cook with u ,thats a different subject

keep family involved when ever possable !!!!

The Virginian · 11-23-2012, 11:18 AM

I would change the name of the team if you can get your sponsors to agree. Unless your team members were just total leaches, which I doubt, they have contributed time and effort into building up the team. I would offer them the team name, just make a clean break and let them know you are starting a new team with your family.

Brett

Rich Parker · 11-23-2012, 11:49 AM

Keep them to make boxes.

Kit R · 11-23-2012, 11:51 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Virginian

I would change the name of the team if you can get your sponsors to agree. Unless your team members were just total leaches, which I doubt, they have contributed time and effort into building up the team. I would offer them the team name, just make a clean break and let them know you are starting a new team with your family.

Brett

Great idea. Unless they have read this thread, you can just say "hey guys I want to do my own thing with my family next year. I think it's only fair that I not take 'our' team name along with me since 'we' are the team. I wish you all the best in 2013". No one's forcing you to compete with these guys, and any leverage they might have had as a member of the previous team is gone because YOU stepped away. Hopefully you can carry over the relationships with sponsor(s) to this new team. Good luck.

Dr_KY · 11-23-2012, 12:41 PM

Have a chat and cut the cord. Let them know where you are coming from so no one is butthurt causing personal friction. Is easy to revamp when there is no drama but I can promis ya there is always a little speaking from experience.

If they are interested in forming a team of their own offer advice as any good friend and a true brethren would/should and remember to ignore the negative folks..... It's funny to watch them follow your lead while talking smack.

Hahaha!

11-22-2012, 09:23 PM	#1
txschutte Quintessential Chatty Farker Join Date: 08-02-07 Location: Cozad, Nebraska	When you gotta cut them loose. I have been the head cook and chief financier of my cooking team for the last 18 months. I have paid all entry fees, rounded up the meat sponsor, worked recipes, etc. But now, I wanna let my family (wife and kids) in on my pasttime and use it for bonding. Honestly, I feel like my other team members are riding my coattails and are contributing zilch, besides taking pics at awards. Would I be a douche if I simply said "sayonara", and take all my toys, including the logo and team name, and ventured with my wife and kids? __________________ "Bring it on, you bananna thong wearing killer of brisket!"-Chambers If you really care about this place, you'll show some respect for it. Your beard is so stupid, it took two hours to watch 60 Minutes.

11-22-2012, 09:31 PM	#2
MilitantSquatter Moderator Join Date: 09-17-05 Location: Mooresville, NC	not at all.... especially if it was on your dime. family first... __________________ XL BGE (#2) & Performer Platinum Former owner: Jambo Backyard, Klose BYC, Lonestar Vertical offset w/ Insulated Firebox, Medium Spicewine, Pitts & Spitts, XL BGE (#1) & (2) Medium BGE's, 22" WSM & (2) 18" WSM's, 18" & 22" Weber Kettles

11-22-2012, 09:40 PM	#3
Gadragonfly Full Fledged Farker Join Date: 03-09-08 Location: Fairburn, Georgia	Are they Brethren? You may have just told them Sent from my Kindle Fire using Tapatalk 2 __________________ 270 GS 270 Sumo Smoker Large Big Green Egg Rec Tec Bullseye Kettle 36" Blackstone BBQ Guru CyberQII Tappaque WiFi Jenn-Air propane grill 7 cats and a husband

11-22-2012, 09:53 PM	#4
"Bone to Bark" BBQ Full Fledged Farker Join Date: 01-28-12 Location: Hagerstown, MD	Cut 'em loose! __________________ Todd

11-22-2012, 09:56 PM	#5
JazzyBadger Quintessential Chatty Farker Join Date: 04-12-10 Location: Jazzy Gerbil Land.	Really, what's the worst that could happen? Insofar as I see it, worst case scenario would be that those cut loose might stop being your friend. If that is in fact the worst case scenario, and you can deal with that, then by all means go for it. Your money, your time, your desire to spend said time and money with family, means they can choke. At least in my world of questionable morals. __________________ The Life of the Knife is Ended By! The Wife. Geld responsibly.

11-22-2012, 10:49 PM	#6
Lake Dogs Quintessential Chatty Farker Join Date: 07-14-09 Location: Lake Sinclair, GA Name/Nickname : Hance	I agree with all that has been said above, however framed in: "it depends on what has been the agreement between you and these other guys up until this point" and some of "how it came to be" But, if it's your team, you named it, you paid for team gear, you've paid for the meats, supplies, entry fees, smoking gear, etc. then yeah, cut 'em loose and do what you must. __________________ Hance - MiM/MBN/GBA CBJ and comp cook Lake Sinclair, GA (strategically about an hour from darn near anywhere) My competition daze are probably behind me now; I pretty much cook for family, friends, and frankly the peace and solitude I get from smokin' on an offset... Was Lang 84DX, now Bubba Grills 250R and many Weber grills

11-22-2012, 11:07 PM	#7
Rookie'48 Quintessential Chatty Farker Join Date: 11-12-06 Location: Des Moines, Iowa	Boy-B-Q rides again . __________________ Dave Compton KCBS MasterCBJ # 22569 Member of the 100+ Contest Club Judge Number 6 competition BBQ team Possibly the only judge ever to get an award from a bunch of cooks UDS 075 UCB WSM and a bunch of other stuff.

11-23-2012, 08:00 AM	#8
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11-23-2012, 08:54 AM	#9
timzcardz Babbling Farker Join Date: 07-22-05 Location: Long Island, NY	Included in the price of financing everything is the right to have the final say on everything. But if there any batteries involved, then leave them, because batteries are never included. . __________________ GRIM REAPER SMOKERS - "BBQ To Die For" ™ "Founders Club" Operation BBQ Relief Weber Smokey Mountain x 3 Weber Genesis Silver x 2 Weber One Touch Gold Weber Performer x 2 Weber Smokey Joe Bottle of Absolut Bottle of Beer Everything Ripken, "Cards and Que. One tastes of cardboard, the other sweet blue." ©

11-23-2012, 08:55 AM	#10
NRA4Life is One Chatty Farker Join Date: 07-07-09 Location: Newark, OH	Do it. My wife and I were the team until our daughter was born, now I just cook by myself. If your teammates aren't contributing, you don't need them. Family time and bonding is important. __________________ - [B]Kevin[/B] Team: [B]Smitty's Real Pit BBQ[/B] KCBS CBJ [B]Superior SS-3[/B] - Courtesy of Gainesville Jaycees and Superior Smokers Custom Built Reverse Flow Stickburner [B]Weber[/B] 22.5" WSM [B]Weber[/B] 26.75" OTG [B]Weber[/B] Blue 2000 Stainless Performer [B]Weber[/B] Red 1998 Stainless Performer

11-23-2012, 09:01 AM	#11
4 smokin butts Full Fledged Farker Join Date: 09-21-10 Location: millstadt il.	dont cut them loose,keep them on back burner for when family cant help or go ,we did 35 this year,the wife and i,sometime kids,get extra help from team when she cant go ,or have a judge cook with u ,thats a different subject keep family involved when ever possable !!!!

11-23-2012, 11:18 AM	#12
The Virginian On the road to being a farker Join Date: 11-27-07 Location: Arlington, VA	I would change the name of the team if you can get your sponsors to agree. Unless your team members were just total leaches, which I doubt, they have contributed time and effort into building up the team. I would offer them the team name, just make a clean break and let them know you are starting a new team with your family. Brett

11-23-2012, 11:49 AM	#13
Rich Parker Babbling Farker Join Date: 06-20-09 Location: Grand Rapids, MI	Keep them to make boxes. __________________ Outlaw BBQ Smoker - TheBBQSuperstore.com

11-23-2012, 12:41 PM	#15
Dr_KY Quintessential Chatty Farker Join Date: 12-15-07 Location: England	Have a chat and cut the cord. Let them know where you are coming from so no one is butthurt causing personal friction. Is easy to revamp when there is no drama but I can promis ya there is always a little speaking from experience. If they are interested in forming a team of their own offer advice as any good friend and a true brethren would/should and remember to ignore the negative folks..... It's funny to watch them follow your lead while talking smack. Hahaha! __________________ www.drsweetsmoke.com Slappin that bass like some delerious funky preist!!! UDS, Half Pint (Mini UDS), Weber, ProQ 20, Kegrilla 250 gallon cooker- 'The Meat Beast!!' British BBQ Championships Grand Champion 2008 ~~~~ British BBQ Society - Southern Championship Grand Champions 2009