I feel your pain HBMTN. My approach has always been that my business does not donate to charities. As a person I do make donations to selected charities but not through my business. When I have been asked for "help/donations" from my business I state that I only have funds budgeted for advertising and I explain that advertising is media only. This may sound extreme, to some, but my business margin is such that I truly can not afford to donate. Eventually the requests stopped. And I have never noticed any adverse affect on my business.
Do I smell SMOKE?????