What about toning down on the smoke?
If you just cooked over charcoal, would she entertain that?
Is it JUST the smoke flavor that she doesn't like?
You could just start using charcoal and/or foiling/covering food to just be able to play with your "outdoor oven". You could still have some stuff in the smoke for you, but wrap up whatever she's gong to eat.
Just a thought.
Big JT's Smokin' BBQ Competition Team
"There is a freedom that cannot be taken from you. There is an inner freedom that nobody can ever deny you of, even if they lock you in a cell and block you off from the world. Seek that freedom."