Oldhoss - welcome, nice to see a Canuck brother from London. My parents used to teach at CCH.
Anyway, I tend to agree with AustinKnight - your clothes and skin are probably steeped in smoke and your senses of smell and taste are dulled to it. You might want to try changing your clothes and washing your hands AND face, or grabbing a shower while the food is resting. I know it's hard to resist chowing down after all that fun cooking. See if that works.
Beyond that, I think you are on the right track with the hickory, it's pretty strong. I like apple myself, but to each his own.
I hope you can sort out your dilema and have lot's of worry free smokin' fun!