Start the fire like this -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nHXcibEJ1lc
No lighter fluid, please. If you must use something as an accelerant, use vegetable oil sprayed (PAM) on the newspaper. You can put a little on the charcoal too but it really isn't needed on the paper or the charcoal.
Get some good, heat resistent gloves, start the fire in the chimney (it has to be a weber, don't waste your time with the knock offs), then dump it in your fire box with some unlit fuel.
Of course, you could do this too -
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8V53P...eature=related
I use whatever method I feel like at the time. If my weedburner is handy, I prefer it.